Why Natural Selection Means We'll Never Be Happy

We didn't evolve to be happy all the time.

By William Von Hippel
Feb 20, 2019 12:00 AMDec 20, 2019 9:21 PM
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I’ve often wondered what it would be like to win the lottery and suddenly have more money than I could ever reasonably spend. I won’t win because I don’t play, but of course most people who play don’t win, either.

This is not such a bad thing. As hard as it is to believe, lottery winners are usually no happier than they were before they won, and a few of them are a lot less happy. Not the day after they win — that’s a pretty good day. But by a year or two later, most of the winners have adapted to their new normal, and their happiness has returned to where it was before they drew the winning ticket. They may be driving a nicer car, but their mind is focused on the fact that they’re still sitting in traffic.

Worse yet, some are focused on all the problems that their windfall has brought them, as friends and family come out of the woodwork, expecting to share in the good fortune. As Sandra Hayes put it in 2006 after winning the $224 million Missouri lottery, people she loved were “turning into vampires, trying to suck the life out of me.”

The sad truth is that when our dreams come true, we rarely end up happier than we were before. New successes bring new challenges. A German adage says it best: “Anticipated joy is the greatest joy.” That’s much more accurate than the “happily ever after” of Disney movies.

Why did evolution play this dirty trick on us? Why did it give us dreams of lifelong happiness by achieving our goals, then fail to deliver the emotional goods when we actually reach those goals?

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