Think You Love Your Partner? It's Complicated

By Vivian Zayas and Yuichi Shoda
Feb 18, 2019 7:54 PMMay 21, 2019 5:44 PM
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Research is beginning to reveal the complexity of nonconscious feelings we hold toward partners. (Credit: Gpointstudio / Shutterstock)

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Valentine cards are filled with expressions of unequivocal adoration and appreciation. That’s fitting for the holiday set aside to express love and reaffirm commitment to one’s romantic partner.

But what if there’s more going on below the surface of these adoring declarations? How might thoughts and feelings that people are not even aware of shape their romantic relationships?

We are two psychology researchers interested in how the mind works, and how it affects a variety of experiences, including romantic relationships. In our studies, we’ve found that how people feel about their partners at a nonconscious level may be a bit more complicated than the typical message in a Valentine. Even for those who consciously express only love and fondness, thinking about a partner can elicit ambivalence – both positive and negative responses of which they’re not consciously aware.

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